2013 was the most amazing year of my life! In many ways I finally feel that I am, for the first time, living the life I was intended for, and not the life I had felt trapped in. I've just been transitioning for a bit over one year now and have never been so happy and comfortable in my own skin. Everyone who has known me for any period of time remarks how much happier I clearly have become than they ever remember me. To say it was a complicated undertaking would be an understatement. First "coming out to myself", then beginning for the first time to find the courage to work with health care professionals who could help sort it all out. I have gone from being terrified that my transition could not possibly succeed, but knowing that I had no choice and would have to make the best of it even if - as I was inclined to believe - I might lose everything and end up on the street. Imagine my joy at discovering that not only could I actually survive, but being overjoyed with each new day as Theresa, and finding the enthusiastic support of nearly everyone in my life! I have been blessed with some amazing friends that have made all the difference for me. I finished the year with a long list of legal identity change steps; court ordered legal name change, state drivers license change for name and gender, Social Security Administration identity change for name and gender, updated US Passport for name and gender, and then an almost endless list of insurance accounts, bank accounts, voter registration, mortgages, utilities, loans, subscriptions, store memberships and loyalty accounts, personal emails, online logins, etc. I even managed to get everyone to update all of my LinkedIn recommendations with my new name and appropriate pronouns. I managed to complete nearly all of that in the span of the last quarter of 2013; no small feat.
I begin 2014 with barely any thought to the burden I used to carry. It is actually hard sometimes to imagine that I was ever not "Theresa," it just feels so "right." My primary personal goal this year is to find some way to complete SRS surgery by the end of the year, although I don't really have a funding plan yet. As I've come to terms with this journey and have successfully transitioned, I find myself able to help others of all ages as they approach this same transition that can seem so terrifying in anticipation, but can become such a blessing as it is accomplished. I don't really expect others to ever fully understand, but this condition can be a silent self-imposed prison of mental and emotional torture, it would mean a lot to me to help others break through as I have. I've even contemplated going back to school to get a certificate to become a gender therapist. I would be one of the few with a strong Judeo/Christian foundation.
In summary, 2013 was a whirlwind of medical and legal changes, and 2014 is a bright new world of blessings and opportunity.
Praying that you and yours will have a blessed and joyous 2014.
Be happy and well my very good friends!
Theresa Rhiannon Scott