Please bear in mind as I write this that I am most assuredly preaching to myself as well. It may also seem like I read too much into it when someone says they are "waiting" for a meaningful relationship, romance, etc. But that said, I believe it is very important to be doing all we can to do our part; not just "waiting," but "becoming," and "engaging." Becoming the best "you" that you can be, and working hard at engaging with others socially in meaningful and enjoyable ways.
Relationships aren't generally going to come door-to-door and join us on the couch watching our favorite DVR'd TV shows! We have to spend a significant amount of time out amongst other people that we find interesting. That may be night classes in college, group dancing lessons, volunteering for a cause you have a passion for, attending a church or social group you enjoy, etc.
At the risk of seeming crass to some, we are actually talking about a marketing challenge: The fundamental principles of marketing - often referred to as the five "P"s of marketing - are: People, Place, Product, Price, and Promotion.
* People - Who are the kind of people you want to meet?
* Place - Where are the physical places those kind of people might be found?
* Product - Have you done all you can to improve your "product" (your self)? Often, the process of becoming the best "you" will also put you in the "places" where you will meet people that you will find interesting.
* Price - I will assume you are not actually interested in "selling" yourself for money - but you still should have clearly in mind what you need in a relationship; romance, commitment, education, looks, income - whatever it is that really matters to you (more about this below).
* Promotion - Finally, if necessary, push yourself to learn how to "promote yourself" in a social setting. Be able to tell people, comfortably, and casually, what they need to know about you to find you interesting. Everyone is interesting in some way, to someone. Practice telling your story. Be willing to push yourself out of your comfort zone if necessary. If you are naturally introverted, this may be difficult for you.
Surprisingly, one of the most difficult things for many people in relationships, is what I've categorized crudely as "price." Studies show that what people "say" and "believe" they're looking for in a relationship is often not what they end up choosing, even when they have other choices. We often do not understand very well what will make us happy. What we think we want intellectually is very often not what captures our heart. The heart wants what the heart wants, and often will find a way to get it, even if the head doesn't agree. I think unhappy people have often talked themselves into a relationship that their head told them would be good for them, rather than paying attention to what their heart was trying to tell them.
All of this is difficult enough for most people, but it should come as no surprise that trans women face extra challenges, so I think we need to be prepared to work that much harder in all of these areas.
I'm an optimist when it comes to relationships. I believe there is someone for everyone, the trick is finding and attracting that right person. Don't wait for it to happen, make it happen.