"I admire what you have achieved already. More specially your weight loss. Can you please tell me how you did such a remarkable effort?"
My reply is reproduced here for the benefit of others:
As for the weight loss, it was actually remarkably simple, but not always easy. We simply eat too much food! I am what we sometimes call a "foodie", meaning that I just enjoy good food and have tended to eat for pleasure rather than for the requirements of nutrition.
Once I decided I would have to transition to survive, I began to take inventory of my physical attributes and challenges in changing my representation to be able to pass as female. Most born with male bodies will quickly realize that we have too much body mass. On average we are taller, wider, and have larger hands and feet than a typical woman, all of this tends to defeat our desire for society view us as the female we are inside. There is nothing we can do to be shorter, or to get a smaller shoe size, or smaller hands, but we can reduce our "width" and add some curves in the right places. The main ingredient anyone lacks for weight loss is sufficient desire. For me, the desire to pass as a female was stronger than my desire to eat good food.
Once you have sufficient desire, you next have to believe that you can lose substantial amounts of weight. Disbelief will undermine your desire and cause you to give up when temptation strikes. My inspiration to believe that I could lose substantial amounts of weight was to look at survivors of some rather horrific survival situations, such as emaciated concentration camp survivors. It was not that I desired to become so thin that my bones would stick out, but seeing the extreme case persuaded me that it was certainly physically possible to lose the amount of weight I needed to.
Once one is sufficiently motivated, the actual process of losing weight involved fairly simple things:
1) I began with some serious fasting to cleanse my colon and shrink my stomach. I drank large amounts of water and took a multivitamin and ate no solid food for a week or so.
2) When I began to eat again, I began with much smaller portion sizes, one half to one third the size of a meal that I would have eaten before.
3) If I cooked at home, I would cook for two to four people and then I would put carefully measured, appropriately small portions, into vacuum freezer bags and into the freezer, before sitting down to eat the remaining small portion left.
4) If I eat in a restaurant, I order a small container large enough for one half to two thirds of the portions that most restaurants serve. I prefer to put that amount in the box before eating the meal. I find it is easier to control what I eat if I remove what I am not going to eat first.
5) Through all of this, it is very important to drink large amounts of water, the precise amount is probably not as important as that it should be much more than you’re used to. For me it varies around a couple liters a day. The water helps your stomach feel full, and helps you flush toxins out of your system. Whenever you feel like eating, drink a bunch of water.
6) I believe portion control is the most important thing, but I did change what I eat in some ways. I tried to seriously restrict the sugars and carbohydrates I intake. I did not eliminate them entirely, but cut back to maybe one fourth to one tenth as much as I might otherwise eat. I did not eliminate carbs and sugars, but cut back a lot.
7) As for exercise, I was never one to go to the gym and workout. I never felt comfortable enough with my body to do that. So I began walking through the small town I live in, finding a route that was about 5 miles and I would walk that three to five times a week. When the weather stopped cooperating recently, I invested in a used elliptical Nordictrack exercise machine to replace the walking.
8) I also came up with some simple exercises I could do lying in bed in the morning, focusing on a combination of yoga stretching, and muscle toning in my waist, butt, and hips. I specifically eliminated any muscle toning in the upper body, despite what any fitness trainer will tell you, as an MTF in transition, I already had way too much shoulders and arms. I am happy to say I have been able to greatly reduce these which is wonderfully helpful when fitting clothes. If you search YouTube for “beginners yoga,” you will find several good beginning stretching routines. Then I focused on exercises for my waist, butt, and thighs:
a. Laying on my back, knees pulled up toward my chest and spread apart, with my toes locked, then pivot my hips and legs from the waist as far left and right as I can, about a hundred iterations. I think this has been helpful developing more of the desirable hourglass shape and flexibility in the waist.
b. Laying on my side, lift my leg as far as I can, keeping it as straight as I can, about fifty iterations per side.
c. Kneeling with my head down, “doggy style,” extend one leg and lift it as far as I can, as straight as I can, I do this about twenty five times, and then begin alternating with diagonal leg lifts forty five degrees left and right, and then straight up. I do this a total of about 65 iterations per leg. This is helpful for tightening and lifting the muscles in the buttocks.
d. Sometimes when driving in my car, I will use an isometric exercise to simply tighten my gut as much as I can and hold it for a bit, and repeat. Sometimes with fun music on the radio, I will simply wiggle my butt right in the car seat (when no one is looking LOL).